How Counseling Works

Counseling is a mutual, collaborative process. You and your counselor will work together to develop goals on which you want to work. Your counselor cannot change you, but acts as a facilitator. Only you can change yourself. You are responsible for making the effort to work on the problems or issues that concern you. Your counselor is committed to help you in the process.

When you are working with a counselor, it is important to honor the commitment you have made to meet with your counselor and to take an active role. For example, it is helpful if you:

  1. spend time between scheduled sessions thinking about what you and your counselor have been discussing;
  2. follow through on any actions you agree to take;
  3. take the initiative to bring up issues or topics to talk about with your counselor. 

Counseling works best when you and your counselor develop a good working relationship based on mutual trust, honesty, and respect.